The day that my husband told me that he was leaving me was the absolute worst day of my life. I had no idea that it was coming. I did not even have a hint that it was coming. So much of our relationship flashed before my eyes that day. I remember thinking about the fact that we had been talking about doing one of those Niseko day trips together, and suddenly, he wanted no part of that with me. I later learned that he had been seeing another woman for five years, and he was going to go with her instead. I realized that I didn't need to stay home and cry. I needed to get up and live life to the fullest. I called a friend and asked her if she wanted to go with me instead.
Getting out and living life as normal really helped me thorugh my divorce. This was the second time that I had been married and divorced. The first time, I spent weeks in bed while I just fell deeper into depression. It did nothing to help me mentally or physically. I did not want to do that again. I wanted to celebrate the fact that I am my own person, and I do not need to be married to someone else to have a happy life. So going with a friend on a trip with a perfect first step toward that.
The day that we reached our destination, I realized how excited I was. I did not care that my husband was there. I was simply interested in getting out to do some skiing and seeing some beautiful things along the way. Not once did I think about him. I smiled, laughed and I had a good time. I will be more choosy with my life and the men that I meet in the future.